The honeymoon phase gives way to the harrowing grind of real life: bills, kids, work stress, health issues, unmet expectations. The shiny veil fades, and suddenly your attitude shifts from “I do” to “I do, but not today.”

Why does life have to be so crazy and chaotic?

Why does it feel impossible to keep your head above water, especially when you’re trying to keep a marriage alive?

Why do you feel like you’re drowning in a sea of “marriage things,” with waves of frustration, exhaustion, and unmet needs crashing over you?

Life will never be completely smooth. Challenges will keep coming. What changes is your mindset—the choice to say “I do” not just once on your wedding day, but every single day you wake up.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Choose to say ‘I do’!

Rather than getting lost in what can’t be done or what’s broken, it’s time to press pause and reset your approach.

What if your marriage could be the anchor in chaos instead of just another storm?

Three Ways a Spouse Can Be Present Without Being Consumed

1. Show Up With Small Intentional Actions

You don’t need grand gestures to prove commitment. Sometimes, the strongest engagement comes from consistent small actions: making that cup of coffee in the morning, sending a text that says “I’m thinking of you,” or offering a genuine “How was your day?” These deliberate, tiny moments create a scaffold your marriage can rest on—even when everything else feels out of control.

2. Set Boundaries Around What You Can Control

You cannot fix everything. You cannot solve all problems in life or marriage at once. Accepting that your energy is limited means you get to say “no” to everything that drains you unnecessarily. Prioritize what’s truly important—talks about feelings, quality time, physical connection—and don’t get sucked into the endless list of “should haves,” “would haves,” and “what-ifs.” Remember, engaged doesn’t mean exhausted.

3. Practice Radical Acceptance and Recommit

Love isn’t ignoring faults; it’s loving beyond them. It’s choosing to accept your spouse as a flawed, growing human and choosing the partnership daily, not because things are perfect, but because they matter. When frustrations rise, instead of spiraling into hopelessness, say “I do” again—an intentional, mindful recommitment to the person sitting beside you, not the fantasy you once had.

It’s normal to want to postpone the “I do” sometimes, especially when life bites hard. But real marriage isn’t about perfection or waiting for things to be easier. It’s about recommitting with raw eyes wide open. Life may be chaotic, but your choice to show up, set boundaries, and recommit can be the calm inside the storm.

You don’t have to drown. Not today. And certainly not tomorrow. Because you are better together.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“