Let’s be real: yelling might feel like an immediate release, but it often leaves behind frustration, wounds, and distance.

Laughter, on the other hand, can reset the mood, disarm conflict, and remind both partners why they’re in the relationship to begin with.

How do you handle disagreements and arguments in your marriage?

Are you one who is quick to point fingers? Or are you a willing participant to laugh at yourself more?

If you want a marriage that grows deeper and wider together, you must laugh together more!

The K.I.S.S. ~ Laugh together more!

So how do you get more laughter and less yelling in your marriage? Here are three practical moves any spouse can make to lean into humor over hostility:

1. Choose Playfulness Over Perfection

Many arguments stem from unmet expectations or feeling like your partner “should” do things a certain way. When you catch yourself about to criticize or raise your voice, hit pause and aim to inject lightheartedness instead. Crack a silly joke, poke fun at your own quirks, or even exaggerate the situation absurdly. This breaks the cycle of pressure and reminds both of you that neither of you is perfect — and that’s okay.

2. Create Shared Moments of Fun

Laughter isn’t a byproduct of marriage. It’s a muscle you have to intentionally exercise. Prioritize moments in your routine where you do something purely for fun with your spouse — like watching a goofy movie, playing a silly game, or recounting ridiculous memories. These pockets of joy build a shared reservoir of good feelings that diffuses future tension.

3. Practice Empathy Wrapped in Humor

When conflict does arise, strive to understand your spouse’s feelings, but express your empathy with a sprinkle of humor. Saying something like, “I get it, you’re hangry and a little terrifying right now,” acknowledges the tension while lightening the mood. This approach lowers defenses, making real communication possible without escalating into yelling matches.

Marriage isn’t about never having arguments. It’s about how you handle them. Yelling might feel loud, but laughter wins every time because it invites connection and peace instead of division.

If you want to enjoy life with your spouse more—not just tolerate it—you’ve got to learn how to laugh together more than you yell.

Now, what’s your move? Start today by choosing one of those three moves. Play a little, create a funny moment, or soften a tough talk with humor. You’ll be surprised how quickly laughter changes the game in your marriage.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“