Because life does get in the way. And when it does, the game of love can be over before it really started. The arguments, the disagreements. The late nights for one who’s the night owl, and the other who turns in early. Opposites do attract, but they shouldn’t show up on a scoreboard.

So what does your marriage look like? Does one of you keep score more than the other? Do you both do it equally?

Shifting the blame doesn’t change the game. You have to decide if the scoreboard is where you should focus. And if you want something different and truly a gamechanger, you’ve gotta embrace connection over competition.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Embrace connection over competition!

Here are three vital strategies to shift focus away from the scoreboard and toward the heart of the matter:

1. Practice Gratitude: Instead of tallying up shortcomings or mistakes, make a conscious effort to appreciate and acknowledge the efforts and intentions of your spouse. Expressing gratitude fosters a positive and supportive environment, nurturing connection and understanding.

2. Cultivate Empathy: Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes and seek to understand their perspective and emotions. By empathizing with their feelings and experiences, you can build a deeper level of emotional intimacy and strengthen your bond.

3. Prioritize Communication: Instead of keeping a mental scoreboard of grievances, prioritize open and honest communication with your spouse. Create a safe space for sharing thoughts, feelings, and concerns, fostering a sense of mutual respect and understanding.

As the NCAA March Madness Tournament unfolds, remember that true champions are not determined by scores alone. It’s the unwavering support, unity, and belief in each other that elevate a team to greatness.

In your marriage, strive to always be the team at the top – united, resilient, and focused on the heart of the matter. Let your love be the victory that transcends all scores, leading you to a place of enduring connection and joy.

At the Top of the Heart by Kristianne Wargo

In the grand arena of hearts, where emotions swirl,
Beyond the confines of wins and losses, unfurl.
Let not the scores dictate our love’s sweet dance,
But the depth of our connection, our enduring romance.

In the symphony of souls, let empathy play,
Understanding and compassion guiding our way.
For in acknowledging each other’s highs and lows,
We foster a love that eternally grows.

Communication, the key to unlocking hearts’ doors,
In its open embrace, understanding soars.
Speak truths, share fears, let vulnerabilities show,
In this sacred space, our love will glow.

As the March Madness tournament captivates the nation,
Let us be inspired by its jubilation.
For in the game of love, we are each other’s team,
United in love, following a shared dream.

So let the scoreboard fade, the numbers blur,
In the realm of love, it’s our connection that’s pure.
Champions not by points, but by the heart,
Together we stand, never to part.

In the symphony of souls, in love’s sweet art,
We’ll always be the team at the top of the heart.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“