However, what that looks like can be down right frightening for many parents. Most don’t want to talk about the “birds and the bees”, let alone giving them space and support all at the same time.

The idea is a crazy one. How can you let your children soar on wings like eagles without clipping their wings?

Ultimately, it would be great to not worry about any of this. But if you don’t think ahead, you’re gonna have a kid on your couch for the rest of your life.

So, how can you create a nurturing environment that fosters independence while still offering support?

The K.I.S.S. ~ Give them space and support!

1. Build an Open Line of Communication: Encouraging your child to express their thoughts, fears, and dreams creates a strong foundation for a healthy parent-child relationship. Listen actively, without judgment, and show them that their opinions and ideas are valued. As Dr. Karen R. Koenig, a licensed psychotherapist and author, advises, “By establishing open lines of communication, you ensure that your child feels comfortable coming to you for advice and guidance, while also giving them the space to make their own choices.”

2. Set Boundaries and Give Space: While it’s important to be present and involved in your child’s life, it’s equally crucial to give them the space they need to develop their independence. Allow them to make mistakes and learn from them, as this is crucial for personal growth. As Paul A. Meyer, an author and speaker on personal development, wisely said, “You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.” It’s about striking a balance between offering guidance and giving them room to explore their own passions and interests.

3. Encourage Self-Reliance: Encouraging your child to believe in themselves and their abilities is essential for building their confidence. Provide opportunities for them to take on responsibilities and make decisions. This develops their problem-solving skills and self-reliance. As Kristianne Wargo, a parenting expert, emphasizes, “By empowering our children to trust their instincts and make choices, we equip them with the tools and confidence to succeed in life.” Celebrate their achievements, no matter how small, and let them know that you believe in their potential. “Believe in your child regardless of the result!” ~ Kristianne Wargo

When you find the delicate balance of unconditional love, the cornerstone of parenting has been set.

It’s about being a guiding presence while also encouraging independence. As parents, we must remember that our role evolves over time, gradually shifting from directing every step to becoming a pillar of support for our children as they navigate their own paths.

You can give, guide, and groom! ~ Kristianne Wargo

Citations:

– Koenig, K. R. (2014). The Food and Feelings Workbook. Gurze Books.

– Meyer, P. A. (n.d.). Retrieved from https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/paul_a_meyer_915272

– Wargo, K. (2021). Personal communication.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“