You see, “spending” is a word that is a little complicated. It can refer to how you use your money, or to show the activity in which someone is engaged or the place where they are living over a period of time.

Now, you can combine the definitions to the point of engagement. Whether it’s money or people, when you spend time you there is a cost, good or bad.

You can choose to spend money the wrong way, just as you can choose to spend time the wrong way.

As parents, we have the responsibility to make sure that the family is built on a strong foundation and bonds are created. And that comes with spending time together.

But it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with activities, movies, school outings, or even family meals.

How you spend time with family needs to include choose, connect, and communicate.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Choose, connect, and communicate!

Spending time together involves setting aside dedicated moments to bond, connect, and strengthen the relationships within the family.

Now you can most certainly enjoy time together by going to a movie, but what is happening before and after? Those conversations and interactions are key.

Mom (and Dad), we have to be intentional about staying in step with our kiddos so they know we are always for them. You don’t want to use activities to be an easy way out so you don’t have your emotional cord pulled.

But by creating experiences that last a lifetime, those are the intimate moments that solidify your family; deep conversations, once-in-a-lifetime experiences, and an openness to share and be vulnerable.

1. Choose

The act of choosing to spend quality time together as a family is an intentional step towards building deeper connections. Establishing regular family rituals creates a sense of belonging and provides opportunities for meaningful engagement. Choose rituals that resonate with your family’s values and interests. It could be a weekly game night, a monthly volunteering activity, or a daily gratitude sharing session. By consciously choosing to prioritize these rituals, you demonstrate to your children that they are cherished, loved, and an essential part of your life, fostering a strong sense of security and identity.

“Choose this day whom you will serve… But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” – Joshua 24:15

2. Connect

Meaningful connections blossom when we actively engage in heart-to-heart conversations with our children. Set aside dedicated times to have open, honest, and deep discussions. Create a safe space where your child feels comfortable sharing their thoughts, fears, dreams, and joys. Be present during these conversations, giving your undivided attention. Practice active listening and ask open-ended questions that encourage reflection and self-discovery. By nurturing these genuine connections, you lay the foundation for a lifelong bond built on empathy, understanding, and unwavering love.

“Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance.” – Proverbs 1:5

3. Communicate

Communication goes beyond words; it involves actively teaching and learning alongside your children. Engage in joint activities that foster growth, self-expression, and skill development. It could be cooking together, engaging in creative arts, or tackling a DIY project. These shared experiences create opportunities for collaboration, problem-solving, and mutual understanding. As you communicate through these activities, you pass on values, life lessons, and practical knowledge while discovering unique aspects of your child’s personality and potential. Embrace the beauty of this reciprocal exchange, as both teacher and student, fostering a deep bond and an environment of continual growth.

“Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” – Deuteronomy 11:19

Remember, spending time together as a family is not just about the activities or meals shared, but about knowing, loving, and guiding your children toward embracing their true potential and who they are becoming. By choosing intentional rituals, connecting through heartfelt conversations, and fostering a culture of continuous communication, you create a sacred space where your family can grow, thrive, and embark on the beautiful journey of becoming who they were created to be.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“