Yes, it plays a huge role in our children’s lives. However, there are still a lot of other factors that impact your child’s self-esteem.

I can remember, way back when, the word “self-esteem” was popular.

And now, it’s all but crickets.

Do we really care about our kiddos?

Now, this is an honest question that I want you to process. Because I think we have become so immune to our children’s needs for the mere fact that our own aspirations and desires overcome our need to parent first.

There was a story I read where a physician was killed in his exam room by a patient. And this patient is about upper 20s or so, with no prior criminal history. Now this is what I know at the time of reading the article.

It is a tragic situation. I’ve been praying for the family. It’s disturbing.

And then I look at the other side, and wonder– Are we doing what our kiddos need from us?

This young man could be my child, age-wise. So I want you to be honest with yourself. No one is going to look over your shoulder or grade you directly. You are grading yourself.

With all of the technology and all we can do around the globe with just movements of our fingers, the distraction is HUGE!!! It’s like outer space HUGE!!! And I wonder if when I had younger kids, could I have been so distracted by my dreams that I didn’t give my own children the attention they deserve as their parent.

What do you think?

Are you giving your time, attention, and energy to the degree that is required to raise incredible kids?

The reason why I ask this is because we have so many children growing up not knowing how to respect others, how to control emotions, how to act with restraint; really understanding the way we relate as human beings, not barbaric creatures.

There’s no blame game here. This is a safe place to really think about whether or not you are giving your children what they need.

Because if they don’t get it from home, and they are struggling in school with others and their friends, we have a problem.

Now, this is where I believe social media comes in. Teachers and school administrators can’t do everything.

When are we going to start working as a team, and what part of that team are you playing on?

If this is going to happen, we have to step up as a family.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Step up as a family!

These are things I want you to consider with your children when something is off, not normal for your child.

1. Signs of Abrupt Change — Have you noticed any differences in their attitude, how they’re dressing, the words they use, or their facial expressions. Anything that’s unusual for their typical behavior.

2. Physical Touch Extremes — Maybe your child was a hugger, and now they are not hugging at all; more distance. Or maybe they’re too touchy.

3. The Hangout Buddies — Who are your kiddos hanging out with? The same friends, or new ones. Or they more isolated?

All of these are indications that something is not good. Attention is needed, bring on the Mama PI. You gotta strike while the iron’s hot.

1. Support with unconditional love. “Love vs. Yell” — One of the most crucial aspects of supporting your child’s self-worth is creating a foundation of unconditional love. Make sure your child knows that your love for them is unwavering, regardless of their achievements or mistakes. This unconditional love provides them with a sense of security, allowing them to feel confident and capable.
2. Teach resilience. — Resilience is a valuable skill that supports your child’s emotional well-being and resilience. By teaching them how to handle challenges and setbacks, you equip them with the tools to bounce back confidently.
3. Instill a sense of purpose. — Another way to support your child’s self-worth is by helping them find and pursue their passions and purpose in life. Help them live their lives boldly.

As a parent, we take this silent, sacred oath that we will care for our children and their needs, and that includes their self-esteem.

And I must add — If at any point you feel overwhelmed as to how your child is acting and appearing to you, seek professional help!

We need to raise the level of our involvement as parents. That’s our job; that’s our responsibility.

Because ultimately, mom, we need to remind them– you are more than you’ve been told.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“