It reminds me of an educational show, Bob the Builder. Do you remember it?

Bob, the builder. Can we fix it? Bob, the builder. Yes, we can!

Honestly, it’s like we take a silent oath that says we will fix everything for our children.

And I truly understand that position. But if everything is fixed, is everything perfect?

We can give our children false hope and not an understanding of truth when we try to be the fixer.

Now, I’m not saying not to help your children. Parents are there to guide and protect, to provide safety and security, and to love unconditionally. But in all of that, it doesn’t mean you can fix everything.

Some things need to be left broken so the lessons can be learned and remembered.

Life isn’t about the ease of the journey, but the lessons learned along the miles of greatness you walk and that your children walk.

Take an extra load off your heart and accept the broken.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Accept the broken!

Now, I’m probably going to get some pushback on this. But understand my heart.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that we should never try to fix things. There are certainly situations where you should do everything you can to find a solution. However, by accepting that you can’t fix everything and focusing on simpler solutions when appropriate, you can reduce stress and be more present and supportive for your children.

And that’s really the focus here. Be the parent you can be, and don’t beat yourself up for unattainable standards that no one can reach.

So when you accept the broken, there are some benefits.

1. Firstly, it can alleviate some of the stress and pressure we feel to be the perfect parent who can solve every problem. This pressure can be overwhelming and lead to feelings of guilt and inadequacy. By acknowledging that we can’t fix everything, we can give ourselves permission to let go of some of that pressure and focus on what we can control.
2. Secondly, accepting that we can’t fix something can also help us to be more present and supportive of our children. When we’re constantly trying to fix things, we may not be fully present in the moment with our children. We may be preoccupied with finding a solution rather than just being there for our children and offering them comfort and support.
3. Finally, dealing with something that is broken can actually be simpler than trying to fix it. For example, if your child’s toy is broken, you may be able to help them find a new toy or activity to enjoy instead of trying to repair the broken one. Also, if a relationship is broken, it may be simpler to focus on finding a way to move forward rather than trying to fix what’s broken.

Again, this is all situational. There is no one size fits all when raising kids. But it’s the little things that add up to create the bigger impact.

CHALLENGE: Where do you see yourself overstepping your boundaries in fixing things for your children?

And then ask yourself these questions.

• Is there anything wrong with your kids trying to fix it themselves?
• What is the harm in leaving something broken?
• Does everything always have to be fixed?

My grandson is learning that there are good and bad consequences. Sometimes if he plays with his toy the wrong way, Daddy can’t fix it when it’s broken. But one of the things my grandson immediately says, “Fix it!”

We can’t do that forever and always.

So at times, maybe broken is better than fixed.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“