Is it enough to do right by your child? As parents and leading young impressionable minds, it’s important to understand the impact we have on our children and how we shape their future.
However, most would jump immediately and say that doing right by our children is what we are to do as parents.
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A few days ago I was faced with a role reversal. Technology, specifically my external hard drive, was being a bit difficult. It truly had a mind of its own.
I stood moaning and groaning at this crazy little machine that was supposed to be life-changing in the way I store my files. But it was bringing more stress and frustration.
In a confident, low rumble, my youngest G-man says, “Now Mom, what would you tell us?” I didn’t respond. Honestly, I didn’t want to hear my own training.
However, he couldn’t resist. “Mom, you would say, ‘Walk away. Just walk away.'”
In that moment, I felt a refreshing rush of “You did good!”. And it really was good advice. I needed to walk away to get the fresh perspective on the situation. For my youngest to know this, I must be doing right by my child.
Or was I?
You see, when we do right by our children, by definition it’s to act, speak, or behave in a way that is just or beneficial to or meets the approval of the child.
The key is that is meets the approval of the child.
Yet that’s not how God teaches us. He doesn’t do everything WE want Him to do. He does what is good for us, not approved by us.
When we raise up our children, we need to look at doing right FOR our children, not BY our children. Those pesky little prepositions. It changes the meaning drastically.
Most parents are leading their children by their approval. So why even parent?
Children do not know what’s best for themselves. We, as their parents, need to rise up and raise up children; train up a child in the way he should go. (Proverbs 22:6)
If we are doing right by our children, we are not training them up in the way they should go. They are training us.
It’s time to lead your child to impact their future.
The K.I.S.S. ~ L.E.A.D. where you stand!
- Locate – Where is your child now? What season is she in? Connect where she is now verses where she is headed.
- Evaluate & Examine her strengths and her weaknesses. What does she need to do to get to where she wants to go? This is where you formulate a plan for the season. This is something you can work on together as mother and child.
- AIM – Action ignites motivation. This is where you are training up your child. Helping her build up courage and confidence by doing. Take AIM!
- Discipline – This “D” is more of the “dangling” discipline. No one wants to set the boundaries, yet discipline keeps her on track. But this is your area as a parent. The greatest impact comes from building consistency; being willing to do the hard work and training them to do the same.
“L.E.A.D. where you stand!”
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