My Strength Is My Story with Chelsea Patterson Sobolik, Longing for Motherhood: Holding on to Hope in the Midst of Childlessness.
Chelsea Patterson Sobolik shares her story of holding on to hope in the midst of childlessness in her brand new book, Longing for Motherhood.
Chelsea Patterson Sobolik: She is a newlywed to husband Michael. She has worked for the U.S. House of Representatives on issues of child welfare, religious freedom, adoption, and foster care policy.
Chelsea was adopted as a newborn from Bucharest, Romania. She has written for The Gospel Coalition, 9 Marks, The Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission, and The Patheos Evangelical Channel.
“Womanhood is so much greater than fertility.” ~ Chelsea Patterson Sobolik
Enjoy the multitude of topics discussed including adoption, dark seasons, infertility, sorrow, wrestling with God, and a love story. Open your heart and be touched by the love of your heavenly Father.
- Traveling the world
- 20/20 Documentary
- Siblings from Russia
- Birth mother
- Dark Seasons
- Rend Collective
- Depression & Panic Attacks
- What are you doing Lord?
- Wrestle with the Lord
- Trials and Sufferings
- Prayer of David
- Bible & Prayer
- What do I know to be true?
- Steadfast Love
- Substituting KNOW
- God’s sovereignty
- MRKH (Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser Syndrome)
- Humanity of Christ
- Don’t Give Up
- Mama Bear
- Capital Hill
- The Love Story
“Our calling is to glorify God and we can do that in any season, in any role we step into.” ~ Chelsea Patterson Sobolik
Quotes and statements within the interview:
“But still children were not in their heart.”
“One evening, and they’ve told me this story so many times, and it’s such a sweet one.”
“So it was just a very common thing to know I was adopted, to know how our family was knit together.”
“Blood doesn’t make family, love does.”
“But I think the thing that keeps me going is that indestructible joy that comes from the Lord.”
“We get to model Christ in how we act and in our joy.”
“It was one day, one doctor’s appointment that completely just changed my life.”
“I was really struck with grief.”
“I never came closer to walking away from my faith and walking away from anything having to do with the Lord.”
“The call to be a Christian is the call to pick up our cross and follow Christ.”
“But when you miscarry a child, no one will ever know unless you tell them.”
“Our emotions are not bad. But the Psalms teach us where to take them and what to do with them, which is to pour them out; sometimes very emotionally into the Father’s heart.”
“Having children is not a promise of God I could hang my hat on.”
“Trusting in a gift that God gives some people is not a promise we can cling to and claim before Him.”
“Our perception of hope is even distorted.”
“This trial took me by surprise, but it didn’t take Him (God) by surprise.”
“Getting to know God and His character is what has given me comfort and hope in the midst of one of the darkest trials.”
“Jesus knew what it was like to face an unfilled desire.”
“I equated her failure to love me perfectly with God’s failure.”
“I didn’t have the room to grieve the death of a dream.”
“I love getting to look back and see how He (God) has ordained everything. And you can see His fingerprints over everything.”
“When you cannot see the hand of God, you can always trust His heart.” ~ Charles Spurgeon
1 How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?
2 How long must I wrestle with my thoughts
and day after day have sorrow in my heart?
How long will my enemy triumph over me?
3 Look on me and answer, Lord my God.
Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death,
4 and my enemy will say, “I have overcome him,”
and my foes will rejoice when I fall.
5 But I trust in your unfailing love;
my heart rejoices in your salvation.
6 I will sing the Lord’s praise,
for he has been good to me.
How can we support those women?
- Understand that it’s an unfulfilled desire.
- Weep with those that weep.
- Press into the Lord.
What would you tell that woman experiencing childlessness?
- It does get easier. Time really does help with those sorrows.
- Surround yourself with a good community.
- Seek professional help.
“Suffering is hard. Suffering alone…. I can’t imagine it.”
How can we support a woman going through childlessness?
- Seeking ways to comfort them in their suffering.
- Be in it with them for the long haul.
- Be careful in slapping cheap comfort on to someone’s real sorrow.
What has your story gifted you?
- Grander view of God
- Loving someone in that vulnerable, sorrowful journey
“My story has gifted me a grander view of God that I wouldn’t have any other way.”
“Empathy to be able to put my arm around another woman and say, ‘Me too.'”
Resources mentioned in the episode:
- BOOK: Longing for MotherhoodConnect with Chelsea Patterson Sobolik
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/ChelsPat
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