In today’s fast-paced world, being a parent can feel like being in a whirlwind of trying to be everywhere and go anywhere with your children, all while juggling work, household chores, and personal time.

The pressure to not miss a single moment of your child’s life can be overwhelming at times. But is it really necessary to be constantly on the go and present for every single moment? Or is it about finding a balance and cherishing quality time with your children?

Parenting experts like Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of “The Conscious Parent,” emphasize the importance of finding self-care and maintaining your own identity as a parent. It’s crucial not to lose yourself in the chaos of raising a family. Remember, taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of your children.

Yes, that’s true. But on the other side, if you have littles, they solely depend upon you. And that means you might be losing sleep if they need to be fed in the middle of the night.

There is no clear-cut answer to this dilemma. This truly is dependent on the season and stage of life. Honestly, it becomes circumstantial.

However, in saying that, you can’t say that when you have children, nothing will change.

Now that is a lie! Children change you!! You can’t keep doing life the same way before you had children. Can you imagine what it would be like to take your child to work and have them sit in with you on business meetings and negotiations?

To some degree, kids can go to work. But then your accessibility is limited.

So in looking at this, don’t miss a moment of what you can control in the season and stage of life that you’re in.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Don’t miss a moment that matters!

That means you have gotta release the pressure of not missing a moment, because there might be other moments that you are needed more.

Again, you have to look at this from what you can control.

Here are three things parents can do to avoid losing themselves in the midst of feeling the pressure to not miss a moment:

1. Schedule “Me Time” – Make it a priority to schedule time for yourself, whether it’s a relaxing bubble bath, a walk in the park, or indulging in a hobby you love. Setting aside time for self-care can help you recharge and be a better parent. The ME TIME is not to ignore the children, but to rejuvenate your heart in serving your family.

2. Delegate Responsibilities — It’s okay not to do everything. Ask for help! Delegate tasks to your partner, family members, or a trusted babysitter. Pay someone to do the jobs that other people can do so you can do the jobs only YOU can do.

3. Be Present in the Moment – While it’s important to create lasting memories with your children, it’s also essential to be present in the moment and not just physically there. Put away distractions like phones and work emails, and truly engage with your children during quality time together.

You hanging out in the bleachers, taking up space so your child sees your face? That is NOT being present. That is merely making a statement that you are a super mom or super dad. But really, where does that land at the end of the day? It might be great if you’re Mr. and Mrs. Incredible. But otherwise, it falls flat.

Be careful not to fall into the trap that busyness puts you in because all you have are seconds cause you didn’t want to schedule minutes.

Slow down to speed up! Your day is not a marathon even though it feels that way. So take a step back and decide what really matters from the situation. Maybe your child would be okay with you missing the play, but they really want you there when for their first prom.

Communicate with your children and the ones you are raising your kids with. Figure out how you can parent well without driving yourself into the ground. Don’t miss a moment. Or better yet – don’t miss a moment that matters to your child.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“