Falling in love is so sweet. The tingly feeling and long talks. Holding hands just because. But is your spouse the same person you married?
The one thing that is constant in our lives is CHANGE! And that applies to people too. We are either moving forward or moving backwards in our relationships, especially our marriages.
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However, are we allowing our marriages to thrive through change?
It’s time to take a walk down memory lane. Go back to the time when you met your future husband for the first time. <story>
What do you remember when your eyes first met?
- Oh my gosh, he’s so cute!
- I wonder if he has a girlfriend.
- Where have you been all my life?
- Was it his eyes that lured you into his trap?
When you last looked at him today, what did you think?
Most likely, none of what you first thought of him when your eyes met.
- Maybe it’s more like, I hope he drops a couple of pounds for his health.
- If only we had more time to spend together.
- Oh how life is so complicated.
- I can’t believe he said that to me. He should know better.
CHANGE is a constant.
But the crazy thing is, we’re inclined to treat each other as if nothing has changed.
It’s not the same. And neither are you.
So why is it that our actions keep us from growing TOGETHER as a couple?
We like to hold onto what reminds us of the simpler life. It’s our comfort zone. And almost a hidden wish that if we could only go back in time, all would be easier. Less complications. Little distractions. Only you and your sweetheart!
So to answer the question, is your spouse the same person you married?
NO! NO!! NO!!!
If he’s not the same person, and you’re not the same person, then how can you grow together as a more united couple with a deeper love and appreciation for each other?
Marriage takes work. You have to be willing to put in the work, AND be willing to change WITH each other.
Yet we like to battle!
As creatures of habit who don’t like change, we stick to what we know. Stickin’ to it is losin’ it!
You have to want more out of your marriage than mundane responsibilities and daily activities.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Increase your hunger for love!
It’s not that you are doing things to be loved, to be noticed.
When you increase your hunger for love, you are seeing your spouse in a different spotlight which enhances his new qualities never seen before.
The WAKE-UP Call!
Wow! I’ve got a really good guy here. I don’t know how I missed this. But what he has done for me is incredible. How he loves on our children. I’ve taken him for granted.
You must have the wake-up call! You gotta get yourself out of the rut. No more assuming the same ole things. You can’t look at your husband through the same lenses when you met him. They are cracked with jagged edges. You always find something that’s wrong. He can’t live up to your standards; past or present.
Same goes for him. He looks at you with the same lenses. And we know we aren’t the same size or have the same hair. It’s a two-way street.
It’s time to open your eyes and see the magnificence in marriage.
It’s your wake-up call!
- Stop hitting the snooze. No more excuses. No more waiting for him to change. Let it go!
- Change your alarm status. We react to much more than what we should. Express yourself in unconditional love; no strings attached, no conditions.
- Rise up! Get up! It’s time to see the beauty in marriage. Do what you can control.
“There is beauty in change. Increase your hunger for love. Time for a wake-up call!”
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