Life presents itself in many forms and fashions. And one way we participate in life, within our community, is by abiding by rules. But sometimes it’s hard to follow the rules.
Temptations jump in the way to distract our goals and confuse our minds. Even if we’re grounded by our heart, it’s still hard to follow the rules.
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Our children are tempted too, more so than ourselves. We can build restraint based on experiences and beliefs. But our children are lured and enticed by what they don’t have.
What you don’t have, you want.
Think about it from a food perspective. If you are told not to eat something, then what do you want? You only seem to crave THAT and you want what you can’t have.
Same goes for our children. The hardships that they face — these hardships are greater due to the fact that they are still discovering who they are, what they want to be, their purpose in life. Too many unknowns that it can overwhelm them.
Yet the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. If your child can become overwhelmed by the rules you’ve set, so can YOU become overwhelmed by the rules you’ve set.
Now understand, I’m not saying to throw out the rules. You can’t have a life without boundaries, even God sets boundaries for us as His children.
So what is one to do when sometimes it’s hard to follow the rules?
First, think about where the rules originated from.
We grew up with rules; what you can and cannot do, when you have to go to bed, what you’re allowed to eat and how late, and how you are allowed to dress.
How are you using those rules in your life now? Pizza night because you had it growing up? Do you enjoy a late night snack? Look at how you organize your home. How meticulous are you with each room?
How is this mirrored in your life? How are these rules and patterns carried out within your family?
“We tend to follow what is set before us; part habit, part comfort.”
But is it really working for you?
In life, we are working toward what? RESULTS!!! Results that bring us success.
We want our children to succeed. With rules, you set boundaries that will set them up for success. Rules are not made for punishment. Rules are for safety and well-being, moral and ethical beliefs, religious beliefs.
“Rules create a lifestyle!”
So when you’re challenged by following the rules, rewrite the rules.
Sometimes you have to rewrite the rules to give you your desired outcome. There’s deeper connection, cohesiveness.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Rewrite the Rules!
Rewrite the rules to open the door of opportunities that will serve your lifestyle commitment to you and your family.
When you rewrite the rules, it’s what is being given to you not what’s being taken from you.
Giving vs. Taking
This is a different perspective to have a deeper connection and cohesiveness to the goals you desire; therefore the rules you set.
Rules support your goals!
- What’s NOT working? (Examples: bedtime, eating)
- Know the GOAL you are after.
- Define SUCCESS for that goal.
- Set up the STEPS for success – the how to, put the rule into action. Take A.I.M.
- Build consistency. Practice brings progress. And don’t forget to ask for help (a coach, a mentor, your husband, a girlfriend, etc.).
“Rewrite the rules to support you goals leading you to miles of greatness!”
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