Now that I have your attention, it’s time to get real. Attention all people pleasers. Why do you do what you do to yourself?
In my coaching practice and life experiences, I’ve watched so many individuals (women and men alike), tear a part their lives because they didn’t see how people pleasing can be an extremely unhealthy pattern of behavior.
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People pleasers tend to put everyone else first leaving themselves struggling at the ninth hour to finish the personal commitments.
That might sound overall good with well intentions. But in actuality, a people pleaser with the need to take care of others, can be deeply rooted in fear — fear of rejection and fear of failure.
The fear of rejection is the little voice that screams, “If I don’t do everything to make this person happy, they might leave me.”
The fear of failure might be screaming, “If I make a mistake I will disappoint them and the consequences won’t be pleasurable.”
“Making everyone happy is the key component to people pleasing . But what’s missing is YOUR happiness.”
People pleasers have the following tendencies:
- Neglect oneself.
- Become passive aggressive burying anger to the people who they serve.
- This can lead to resentment and bitterness.
- Stress on steroids and depression can begin to rise up.
Ultimately, you become the doormat for many!
Is this the life you want for yourself?
You can serve and care for others without jeopardizing your own health and well-being.
The K.I.S.S. ~ PAUSE before taking A.I.M.!
- Create boundaries for yourself.
- What are your non-negotiables?
- What are your values?
- What season are you in?
- PAUSE before saying yes.
- Don’t say yes immediately.
- Double check the request with your boundaries.
- Then reply to the request.
- Always do ONE thing for you daily.
Understand that your PAUSE will change with your seasons.
“One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!”
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