The holiday season arrives with joyful cheers and dizzy deadlines. Between the parties, shopping, and family visits, it can be a whirlwind that sweeps even the strongest marriages into the background.

Often, the spouse feels like an afterthought, the “leftovers” of your attention.

#TRUTH:  Your marriage deserves fresh fuel before Christmas, not leftovers.

It’s easy to justify sidelining your partner with “there’s just too much to do.” But how fair is it to let your life’s closest companion settle for second best?

“Life isn’t always fair, but love calls for intention.” ~ Kristianne Wargo

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1

Before things get too crazy, pause. Make time sacred. The greatest gift you can offer your spouse is your presence, being fully and unapologetically attentive.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Be fully and unapologetically attentive!

Here are three ways to make your marriage a priority this Christmas season:

1. Schedule “Just Us” Moments Like Important Appointments
   Block time on your calendar, no exceptions. Even 15 minutes of undivided attention—no phones, no distractions—can dramatically deepen connection. Treat it like you would a business meeting or family gathering. When it’s scheduled, you show your spouse that they matter as much as anything else this season.
2. Create a Holiday “Love Letter” Exchange
   Set aside an evening to write and exchange letters of appreciation and hope for your marriage. This ritual invites vulnerable expression and renews emotional intimacy. Bonus: Save these letters to revisit in tougher seasons.
3. Practice the Power of “Pause and Ask”
   Use holiday chaos to check in with questions like, “How are you really feeling? What can I do to support you this week?” Showing curiosity and care amid busyness validates your spouse’s experience and nurtures your bond.

Remember the story of Mary and Joseph’s journey to Bethlehem — their faith and love navigated uncertainty and pressure. Like them, you’re called to prioritize your union even when the demands are high.

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” – 1 Peter 4:8

This Christmas, gift your spouse the honor of your attention. Don’t let holiday chaos dictate your marriage climate. You get to choose: leftovers or love first.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“