So, what are you doing to deepen your love now—not someday?

Intentionality is the backbone of any marriage that seeks to thrive beyond surface-level affection. Without it, life’s demands — work, kids, social obligations — crowd out the moments that truly matter.

You don’t just hope love happens; you make space for it to happen.

You schedule date nights. You carve out time, even when it feels like the clock is against you. Because love left to chance gets buried under the day-to-day noise.

Seeing that kind of love reflected in other couples, like Travis and Taylor, often triggers jealousy. And if you’re honest, maybe even some envy or insecurity.

Here’s the blunt truth: Talking behind backs does nothing except plant weeds in your own garden. Instead, channel that energy into building your marriage with intention and heart.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Build your marriage with intention and heart!

So, let’s cut through the fluff and get tactical. What are three concrete actions a spouse can take to love unconditionally while showing up deliberately and being intentional every day?

1. Own Your Presence — Be All In When You’re Together

Unconditional love demands your full attention. Put down the phone. Shut the laptop. When you’re with your spouse, be there. Listen. Look into their eyes. Ask—not assume—what they need emotionally in that moment. Presence says louder than any grand gesture: “You matter. Our connection matters.”

2. Speak Love in Their Language, Not Yours

We often express love based on how we want to receive it, but your spouse has their own love language. Think about the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Whether it’s words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, physical touch, or gifts, discover what fills your spouse’s emotional tank and intentionally pour into that. This is not guessing—this is paying attention, being aware, and showing up intentionally on purpose.

3. Choose Forgiveness Over Grudge Holding

Unconditional love isn’t blind; it’s willing to extend grace. Holding onto offenses—big or small—builds walls, not bridges. Commit to forgiveness as a daily practice. This isn’t easy, but love that lasts doesn’t keep score as it does on the football field or tennis courts. It chooses to release, reset, and rebound by continuing to move forward united—this is us.

Bottom Line

Unconditional love isn’t some magical fairy tale, like it appears to be for Travis and Taylor. It’s a deliberate choice made over and over again, just as they chose each other every day, whether at her concert, at his games, a night on the town, or at home.

• It’s showing up when you’re exhausted.
• It’s forgiving when you’re hurt.
• It’s listening when you’re distracted.
• It’s making time when you feel there’s none left.

It might not shout from the rooftops like celebrity engagements, but it’s far more powerful.

So ask yourself: What is my move today to love deeper, show up more fully, and build a marriage that no rumor, judgment, or distraction can shake?

Your love is worth that fight. Now, fight for it with intention.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“