It’s a love deficit that grows until both partners feel unappreciated and disconnected. And don’t assume age brings change—decades often only deepen old patterns because comfort with fault-finding feels safer than risking vulnerability.

So, let me ask you straight: What are you doing for your spouse lately? Are you focusing on where they fall short, or are you tuned into what they do right? If you’re honest, the answer probably clings to the negatives more than the positives.

It’s time for a shift.

You have to get on the Golden Rule Train—and make it the Golden Rule your marriage lives and breathes.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Get on the G.O.L.D.E.N. Rule Train!

Let’s make the idea tangible with a simple acronym you can act on right now:

G.O.L.D.E.N. Rule Train for Marriage

• G – Gratitude: Catch your spouse doing something right—even the small stuff—and say it out loud. Gratitude rewires your brain to look for good, not gaps.
• O – Open-hearted Listening: Put your defenses down. Listen not to respond, but to understand where your spouse is coming from without judgment.
• L – Loyalty: Choose to have your spouse’s back versus tearing them down in private or public. Loyalty builds safety and trust.
• D – Daily Acts of Kindness: Small gestures—making coffee, sending a thoughtful text, or simply sharing a smile—pile up into a mountain of care.
• E – Empathy: Step into their shoes and feel what they feel. Even if you disagree, acknowledge their experience as valid.
• N – Nurture Your Bond: Invest time and energy intentionally in your relationship. Love is a verb, demanding action every single day.

Putting the G.O.L.D.E.N. Rule of Marriage into practice shifts your focus from “what can I win from this relationship?” to “how can I serve the person I chose?”

Marriage isn’t a scoreboard; it’s a shared project requiring sacrifice, patience, and consistent effort. It’s a beautiful gift that opens the door to a deeper kind of love—one that doesn’t wait for perfection but chooses connection in spite of flaws.

So, decide today: Will you join the few who dare to love differently by doing unto your spouse with the care, respect, and kindness you wish to receive? Your marriage depends on it.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“