“Surely, it will get better,” you repeat to yourself.

So, what does your reality look like? In fact, let me ask you a more challenging question. What does your night feel like?

The darker the night, there’s a flood of emotions and feelings. It’s almost as if the night brings out the monster feelings we attempt to ignore during the day.

With a restless sleep and a weary heart, it’s so tough to make it. But somehow you do, and then the sun rises. You rinse and repeat because that’s what you know.

But married life is not intended to be something you hate and despise. It does require work connecting two hearts. And that doesn’t come easy. However, it can be accomplished. You just have to be willing to uncover what is hidden.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Uncover what is hidden!

And for the most part, what is hidden is you! Maybe you think it’s better to stay quiet and reserved with your words instead of speaking up and letting your voice be heard.

I want you to keep in mind that marriage is a two-way street. It takes two to have a marriage where you grow together, encourage each other, and live life well. If anyone tells you differently, they are telling a fib!

But you don’t have to settle for where you are right now. If you want a marriage in which two people can do life together well, it can be you!!

Yet, it comes with a cost. You must uncover what is hidden.

1. Acknowledge Your Hurt – This can be a particular situation that was a one and done. Or it might be a pattern of actions that repeat themselves quite frequently with your spouse. What matters is that if it is bothering you and thoughts pop up regularly, there is something there.
2. Express Yourself with Care – If you choose to hold onto hurts, they will not only destroy your marriage but also you! So, share your thoughts and feelings with your spouse. If it is something that you believe will set your spouse off in the a negative direction, be sure you share with someone you feel safe with. You don’t have to do it alone. *And if you are in physical danger, please seek help!
3. Forgive to move forward – You can do all the stuff, but if you are not willing to forgive your spouse, then it will lead to bitterness for you! And bitterness truly sucks the life out of you. If you think you have it bad now, when you hit the rock bottom of bitterness, it can be so emotionally and psychologically destructive. It tears you up from the inside out! But you can overcome knowing that both of you are coming together and willing to work together.

If you can get professional help, I would highly encourage it. And gentlemen, if you are listening, be a man and go too! If you want this to work, remember it takes two!

I want you to think about this episode as a way to change what you don’t want so you can have what you dreamed of for your marriage.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“