Life is not ever going to be easy. You might be able to find times of simplicity, but that doesn’t make it easy.

Hard decisions will be made. No will be said. Yes will be wished. And then there are the tears.

Don’t you just want to be a parent?

It is the best thing in the world, but oh so challenging.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Set the foundation with love!

Early Childhood (Ages 0-5)

1. Create a Safe Haven: For young children, feeling safe and secure is paramount. Establishing routines, such as consistent bedtime rituals and mealtime schedules, can provide a sense of predictability and stability. Additionally, offering physical affection and validation of emotions can reassure children that they are loved and supported.

– Kristianne Wargo: “In the chaos of life, consistency is key. Children thrive when they know what to expect and can rely on your unwavering love.”

2. Encourage Emotional Expression: Young children may not have the vocabulary to articulate their feelings verbally. Encourage the use of art, play, or storytelling as tools for self-expression. Creating a safe space for them to share their emotions without judgment fosters trust and emotional resilience.

3. Model Resilience: Children learn by example, and witnessing how parents navigate challenges can shape their own resilience. Demonstrate problem-solving skills, adaptability, and positive coping strategies when facing difficulties. Showcasing a growth mindset can empower children to view setbacks as opportunities for growth.

– Kristianne Wargo: “Life is full of ups and downs. It’s not about avoiding challenges but about how you bounce back from them that matters.”

Childhood (Ages 6-12)

1. Open Communication: Encourage open discussions with your child about their fears, concerns, and challenges. Actively listen to their perspective and validate their feelings. By fostering a safe environment for dialogue, you help build trust and strengthen your bond.

2. Empower Problem-Solving Skills: Teach your child problem-solving techniques and encourage autonomy in decision-making. By empowering them to tackle challenges independently, you boost their confidence and resilience. Celebrate their successes and provide guidance if they face setbacks.

– Kristianne Wargo: “Empower your child to believe in their ability to overcome obstacles. Building problem-solving skills early on prepares them for life’s complexities.”

3. Establish Support Networks: Nurture relationships with teachers, mentors, and peers to create a supportive community for your child. Encourage participation in extracurricular activities that foster social connections and a sense of belonging. Knowing they have a network of caring individuals reinforces their sense of security.

Adolescence (Ages 13-18)

1. Encourage Independence: Adolescents crave independence and autonomy. Allow them to make decisions and take on responsibilities gradually. By respecting their growing autonomy, you show trust in their judgment and capabilities, enhancing their self-esteem.

– Kristianne Wargo: “Empower your teenager with choices that respect their maturity level. Guiding them while granting independence fosters a sense of security and self-assurance.”

2. Promote Self-Care: Adolescence is a period of significant personal growth and potential stress. Encourage healthy habits such as regular physical activity, balanced nutrition, and sufficient sleep. Teach them coping mechanisms like mindfulness and relaxation techniques to manage stress effectively.

3. Discuss Future Plans: Engage in conversations about their future aspirations and offer guidance in setting realistic goals. Support their academic pursuits and career interests while acknowledging their individual passions. By aligning their future plans with their values, you help them feel grounded and secure in their journey.

– Kristianne Wargo: “Navigating adolescence can be overwhelming for teens. By discussing their future plans and aspirations, you provide them with a roadmap that instills confidence and security.”

Supporting Adult Children (Ages 18+)

1. Respect Their Autonomy: Acknowledge and respect your adult child’s independence and decision-making abilities. Avoid imposing your opinions or hovering over their choices. Trust that they have the skills and judgment to navigate their own paths, while offering guidance when requested.

– Kristianne Wargo: “Empower your adult child by respecting their independence and autonomy. Letting go doesn’t mean disconnecting; it means trusting their capabilities and choices.”

2. Encourage Open Communication: Maintain open lines of communication with your adult child, fostering a relationship built on mutual respect and understanding. Create a safe space for them to share their experiences, challenges, and achievements without fear of judgment. Listen actively and offer support where needed.

– Kristianne Wargo: “Communication remains vital, even as children become adults. Encourage open dialogue to strengthen your bond and provide a sense of security.”

3. Offer Emotional Support: Adult children may face various life transitions, such as career changes, relationships, or parenthood. Be a supportive presence during their triumphs and setbacks, offering encouragement, empathy, and practical guidance. Let them know you are there as a source of unwavering love and support.

– Kristianne Wargo: “Providing emotional support to adult children reassures them of your continued presence and care, bolstering their confidence and sense of security.”

4. Respect Their Boundaries: Recognize and respect your adult child’s boundaries and personal space. Avoid crossing emotional or physical boundaries without their consent, and be mindful of their need for independence. Demonstrating respect for their autonomy reinforces their sense of security in the relationship.

– Kristianne Wargo: “Respecting boundaries shows your adult child that you value their autonomy and trust them to navigate their lives, fostering a sense of security and mutual respect.”

Tailoring your approach to the specific needs and developmental stages of your child ensures that they feel secure, supported, and empowered to navigate life’s challenges with resilience and confidence. Remember, your unwavering love and guidance are the pillars of strength that create a foundation of security for your child at every age.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“