How unfair is it to both of you to remain disconnected in a connected relationship–because that’s what you’re in?

And when you are in the moment, you are exhausted and flustered because the day hasn’t gone as well as it should have.

Why do you let the results of your day influence the intimacy of your marriage?

It’s understandable that life gets in the way. But life will always be life. There will be issues with the kids, bills to pay, and responsibilities at home and in your community. There will be times in your career that interfere with what you want to do. Vacation may not always be an option. Health will challenge you at some point, whether weight or illness.

However, that doesn’t mean you leave behind your spouse. Your vows were for better or worse. It makes absolutely no sense to numb out because life happens to you. Take life and run with conviction to choose love regardless of the life’s results.

So what can you do to choose love over numbness?

Reignite the flames of love.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Reignite the flames of love!

The once fiery passion may dwindle into a little more than routine pecks and lukewarm embraces. Yet, you can break free from the numbness and reignite the flames of love.

The complacency does not have to continue. You get to champion your marriage. Don’t settle. When you fell in love, you didn’t settle. So why start now?

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s all too easy for exhaustion and frustration to seep into the cracks of a marriage, dampening the flame that once burned brightly between two hearts. But why should the challenges of the day dictate the level of intimacy between partners?

What does it look like to reignite the flames of love?

1. SHAKE UP THE NUMBNESS

Prioritize Quality Time

Make a conscious effort to carve out dedicated quality time for each other amidst the chaos of everyday life. Whether it’s a weekly date night, a spontaneous weekend getaway, or simply snuggling on the couch without distractions, prioritizing quality time together strengthens the bond between partners.

“Love is a choice. Love is a verb. It’s choosing to prioritize and take action in  your relationship above all else, even when life gets chaotic.” ~ Kristianne Wargo

2. INFUSE WITH KINDNESS

Communicate Openly and Honestly

Effective communication lies at the heart of any successful relationship. Take the time to truly actively listen to each other, express your feelings openly, and address any issues that may be causing distance between you. Honest communication fosters understanding and allows both of you to feel heard and valued.

“Don’t let silence breed space. Speak your heart, listen intently, and let love bridge the gap.” ~ Kristianne Wargo

3. INTENTIONALLY LIGHT THE FLAME

Reignite the Passion

Don’t let the flame of passion flicker out in your marriage. Find creative ways to reignite the spark, whether it’s through spontaneous gestures, heartfelt gestures of love, or exploring new experiences together. Keep the element of surprise alive and nurture the physical and emotional intimacy between you.

“Passion fuels love. Let spontaneity and romance breathe life into your marriage, keeping the flames burning bright.” ~ Kristianne Wargo

When you choose love over numbness, it will require intention, effort, and a willingness to prioritize your marriage above all else. As you take the time to be together, that’s where the numbness fades, and you get to play!

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“