Leslie Vernick, a renowned marriage counselor, emphasizes the importance of addressing jealousy in a healthy way. She says, “Jealousy in a marriage stems from insecurities and unmet needs. It’s crucial to communicate openly and empathetically to build trust and mutual understanding.”

Have you ever experienced jealousy in your marriage?

Sometimes jealousy rears its head in unexpected ways, such as feeling envious of the attention your spouse gives to others or even to your children.

If you want to get to the bottom of jealousy, ask curious questions.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Ask curious questions!

When you want to be curious, then it’s going to take courage to say something.

There is a link between the words “curious” and “courage.” Both words stem from the Latin word “cor,” which means heart.

“Curious” originally meant eager to know, and it can take courage to delve into the unknown or to seek answers to questions.

Similarly, “courage” refers to the ability to face difficulties and challenges with bravery, which often requires a curious and open mindset to explore new possibilities and overcome fears.

In essence, curiosity can fuel the courage needed to step into the unknown and grow personally and professionally.

To handle jealousy effectively, consider the following strategies:

1. Communicate openly and honestly: You can do this by asking questions that put things in perspective. Expressing your feelings of jealousy to your partner can help them understand your perspective. Talk about your insecurities and fears in a non-confrontational manner to foster a supportive environment for mutual growth and understanding.

2. Establish boundaries and reassurance: Setting clear boundaries in your marriage can help alleviate jealousy triggers. Reassure your spouse of your commitment and love regularly, reinforcing the emotional connection and trust between you both. Come at it with an empathetic ear. This will open the possibility of your spouse hearing what is happening. Be compassionate and kind for your spouse’s feelings.

3. Self-reflect to check where you are: If jealousy in your marriage becomes overwhelming or leads to constant conflicts, don’t hesitate to seek support from a counselor or therapist. Professional guidance can offer valuable insights and tools to navigate through challenging emotions. You can get support with groups, journaling, coach, therapist. This will give you the opportunity to self-reflect and a place to land when you are trying to figure things out.

Kristianne Wargo aptly points out, “Jealousy can make one feel like an object, rather than a cherished partner. Addressing it promptly and constructively is essential to nurture a healthy, loving relationship.”

Remember, a sprinkle of jealousy is normal in relationships, but when left unchecked, it can turn toxic. By fostering open communication, setting boundaries, and seeking assistance when needed, couples can strengthen their bond and conquer jealousy together.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“