But if we’re not careful, there comes a point where this love can inadvertently become suffocating, hindering the growth and maturation of our children.

I don’t know about you, but I want my children to be strong and independent. I want them to be able to impact the world they touch with their gifts and talents.

My responsibility is to give them the launching pad so they can live a life well-lived. When you think about it, we only have 18-20 years on average that our children need us, give or take. And then, they have their whole life ahead of them.

What are some practical ways we as parents can love from afar, fostering healthy growth and maturity in their children at different stages of life?

The K.I.S.S. ~ Love from afar!

Obviously, the age of the child determines how you lead them well so they can live well. So, I want to break down some of the stages of life. Of course, some of this can be duplicated with some tweaks.

Elementary Age:

1. Encourage Independence through Responsibility:

For parents of elementary-age children, it is important to instill a sense of responsibility. Allow them to complete age-appropriate tasks independently, such as packing their school bag or making their bed. This not only teaches them essential life skills but also boosts their confidence and gives them a sense of accomplishment.

2. Support Social Interactions:

Encourage your child to participate in extracurricular activities and social events. This will provide them with opportunities to interact with their peers, develop social skills, and learn how to navigate different social dynamics. As a parent, support their involvement while giving them the necessary space to explore and make their own choices.

Middle School:

1. Foster Open Communication:

During the middle school years, children may begin to assert their independence and seek more privacy. It becomes crucial for parents to create a safe and open environment for communication. Initiate conversations about their daily life, school, and hobbies, but also respect their need for personal space. Let them know your door is always open should they need guidance or support.

2. Encourage Self-Reflection:

Middle schoolers are at an age where figuring out their identity and values becomes more significant. Encourage them to engage in self-reflection and explore their interests and passions. Provide resources and support, but allow them the freedom to shape their own opinions and make decisions. Guide them, don’t dictate to them.

High School:

1. Empower Decision-Making:

High school is a critical transitional period in a teenager’s life. Parents can love from afar by empowering their children to make their own decisions. Encourage them to take ownership of their academic choices, extracurricular activities, and personal goals. This autonomy will inspire self-confidence and foster growth.

2. Support Goal-setting and Planning:

Help your high schooler set realistic goals and create a plan to achieve them. Instead of dictating their path, guide them in mapping out steps to reach their aspirations. This will promote self-discipline, time management skills, and a sense of responsibility.

College and Grown Adults:

1. Maintain a Supportive Presence:

During their college years and beyond, it is important for parents to be a supportive presence. Be available for guidance, lend an empathetic ear, and offer advice when sought. However, acknowledge that they are now adults, capable of making their own decisions and learning from their experiences.

2. Respect Boundaries:

As your child ventures into adulthood, it is necessary to respect their boundaries. While you may still be their trusted source of wisdom, avoid imposing your opinions or decisions on them. Allow them the freedom to carve their own path, even if it differs from your expectations.

In the words of Kristianne Wargo, “Love from afar is about creating a nurturing environment where your child experiences the freedom to grow, while also knowing they have a loving support system if needed.”

Remember, loving from afar does not mean relinquishing parental love or guidance. It means finding the right balance of being present and allowing your children the necessary space to become independent individuals. By practicing these techniques in various stages of their lives, you can foster healthy growth and maturity, ultimately shaping them into well-rounded adults.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“