But, most of us don’t listen really well on the wedding day. We are in frantic mode, trying to make sure we don’t forget anything. However, life becomes real after that.  And then, you have to figure out how to make it work, or you are under piles of paperwork.

Marriage is an incredible gift if used and treated well. Yet, once again, we don’t treat our spouses the way they deserve. And we aren’t that spectacular ourselves.

So if you want to enjoy a harmonious marriage, not everything perfect, but beautifully intertwined, you have to learn how to be a spectacular spouse. And that means being better by 1% every day.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Be better by 1% every day!

Now, you can be the one who points fingers and says that everything in your marriage is your spouse’s fault. But marriage is a two-way street, and you make up half of that.

So, let’s look at what it’s like to be a spectacular spouse.

1. Have a Harmonious Heart

One of the cornerstones of any successful relationship is harmonious communication. To become a spectacular spouse, it is vital to enhance your communication skills by actively listening, expressing your own thoughts and feelings, and creating a safe space for open dialogue.

Harmonizing Hearts involves creating an environment where both partners can feel heard, understood, and validated. This means actively listening to your spouse with genuine interest and empathy, allowing their thoughts and feelings to resonate with your own. It involves reflecting on what they have shared to ensure that you truly understand their perspective. By doing so, you are building a bridge between your hearts and fostering a deeper emotional connection.

In addition to listening, effective communication requires expressing yourself honestly and respectfully. Instead of bottling up your concerns or frustrations, learn to communicate them calmly and constructively. By using “I” statements and focusing on your own emotions and needs, you can avoid blame and encourage a more collaborative approach. For example, instead of saying, “You never help with household chores,” you can say, “I feel overwhelmed with the household responsibilities. I would appreciate it if we could find a way to share the workload.”

Remember, harmonious communication is not about avoiding conflict, but rather addressing it in a way that promotes understanding and resolution. By harmonizing hearts through active listening and mindful expression, you can create a solid foundation for a spectacular marriage.

2. Show Gestures of Love and Affection

Small gestures can often make the biggest impact when it comes to strengthening your marriage. Spectacular spouses understand the significance of expressing love and affection regularly.

Surprise your spouse with thoughtful gestures or acts of kindness that show you are thinking about them. Leave sweet notes in unexpected places like their lunchbox or vehicle, reminding them of your love and appreciation.

Plan a date night or a weekend getaway tailored to your partner’s interests and needs. Whether it’s cooking their favorite meal together, going on a nature hike, or enjoying a relaxing spa day, focus on creating special moments that strengthen your bond.

Furthermore, physical affection should never be underestimated. Make sure to cuddle, hug, hold hands, and kiss each other regularly. These simple acts of intimacy help create a strong emotional connection and reinforce your love for one another.

3. Prioritize Treasured Hours

In the midst of our busy lives, it’s all too easy for precious moments with our partners to slip away. But to truly become a spectacular spouse, it’s essential to prioritize treasured hours and create opportunities for meaningful connections.

When we prioritize treasured hours, we’re acknowledging the importance of quality time spent together. It’s not just about the quantity of time, but rather the depth of connection and the shared experiences that make a difference in our relationships.

Make a conscious effort to set aside dedicated moments for your partner. Create a special space or time frame where both of you can escape the distractions of daily life and focus exclusively on each other. During this uninterrupted time, engage in heart-to-heart conversations, explore each other’s dreams and aspirations, or simply bask in the joy of each other’s presence.

Planning activities that resonate with both partners can further enhance the quality of your time together. It could be as simple as taking a leisurely stroll hand-in-hand or preparing a romantic dinner at home. The key is to prioritize each other’s presence and create cherished memories that reflect your mutual love and appreciation.

Remember, the significance of treasured hours lies not in grand gestures, but in the intention and thoughtfulness behind them. By prioritizing treasured hours, you’ll be nurturing the emotional and physical bonds that are the bedrock of a spectacular marriage.

As you embark on your journey to becoming a spectacular spouse, remember that it takes consistent effort, dedication, and unconditional love. Embrace the opportunity to grow together.

“A spectacular spouse breathes life into their marriage through intentional words and actions.” ~ Kristianne Wargo

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“