And that’s the art of parenting– the words you say, the actions that reflect your thoughts, the tone of your voice that sets the stage, and the door that’s always open.

It’s essential that we as parents understand and remember that in order for us to have a complete impact, we must forge an unbreakable foundation. So even when they do stray, they still know that you’re always for them.

Today, my heart breaks for Perry, Iowa, and what the families are facing there. Perry is a smaller town in Iowa, and I’m sure no one thought this could happen in their town.

But even as the new year is upon us, old stuff still shows up. And as parents, we have to ready our families within our own four walls and teach them to the best of our abilities. No one ever thinks that something like this will happen. And it’s not because we are arrogant or untouchable, we just go about our every day not thinking that way.

But if you want to have an impact on your children, you have got to connect to their hearts. It truly is about creating heartfelt connections with your child.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Create heartfelt connections!

Now, I will say this. There is no blame here in regard to what happened in Perry, Iowa. In fact, we all should be praying for those who have been affected and make changes within our own families to better ourselves. It’s not about perfection, but merely doing better with each decision and encounter we have with our children.

As much as we are connected digitally, our hearts are disconnected emotionally.

If you want to create heartfelt connections with your children, what does it look like?

1. Engage in Meaningful Conversations

Talk to you kiddos!!! Meaningful conversations lay the foundation for building strong connections with your child. In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in superficial discussions or simply exchange pleasantries. Hey, how are you? And then you let it go. Do you really know your child?

Take the time to engage in deep conversations, which helps to build that trust. Engage your child in open-ended conversations about their day, dreams, fears, or opinions. Encourage them to express themselves freely while actively listening without judgment.

As parents, we are so quick to judge. And very rarely do we apologize for mistakes. Show genuine interest in your child, in what they’re doing and what they’re challenged with. It comes down to paying attention!

2. Share Experiences and Hobbies

Get off your digital space, and share experiences with one another. Some of the most profound connections are forged through shared experiences and hobbies. Take the time to explore your child’s interests and actively participate in activities they enjoy. Learn something new with them. It’s a new year. Take up something like playing a board game, enjoying a hike together, or taking up a new hobby. Shared experiences create lasting memories and strengthen your bond. By engaging in activities your child loves, you demonstrate your support, encouragement, and willingness to be present in their world. Presence matters! Are you giving it to your child?

3. Practice Mindful Presence

In our busyness, it’s easy to let moments slip away without recognizing their true impact. When you are fully present, you send the message to your child that they matter and that they are a priority. Slow down and savor the simple joys of everyday life, like cooking together, reading a book before bedtime, or even having a family movie night. By being fully present and engaged in these moments, you emotionally connect with your child on a deeper level, reinforcing their sense of love, belonging, and significance.

Your child longs to be seen and heard!!

Remember, building heartfelt connections with your child requires intentional effort, but the rewards are immeasurable.

“Your art must connect to their heart. Create a strong foundation that will last a lifetime.” ~ Kristianne Wargo

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“