Many spouses have experienced this dilemma, where they sense that there is an underlying issue, but struggle to identify what it is.

If you can relate to this, then it’s time to take a closer look at the signs that may be unveiling themselves during this holiday season.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Follow the signs!

In a strong and thriving marriage, the key lies in being effective, rather than being right.

As Kristianne Wargo wisely says, “Effectiveness is where love resides.”

So, instead of fixating on who is right or wrong, focus on taking the necessary steps to address the signs that are revealing themselves that will potentially strengthen your marriage.

1. Pay attention to subtle changes

During the holiday season, it’s common for routines and dynamics to shift. Take notice of any subtle changes in your spouse’s behavior, mood, or communication patterns.

Are they more withdrawn than usual, or perhaps more irritable? Are they avoiding certain conversations or becoming defensive?

These small shifts can often be indicative of underlying issues. By observing and acknowledging these changes, you are taking the first step toward understanding what may be going on beneath the surface.

2. Engage in open and honest communication

Communication is the foundation of any successful marriage. If you sense that something is not right, it is crucial to engage in open and honest conversations with your spouse.

Create a safe and non-threatening environment where both of you can express your thoughts and concerns without fear of judgment or defensiveness.

By actively listening and seeking to understand each other’s perspectives, you will facilitate a deeper connection and potentially unveil the signs that are hiding beneath the surface.

3. Seek professional guidance

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, we need external support to navigate through challenging times in our marriage. If you find yourself continuously struggling to identify and address the signs, it may be beneficial to seek the guidance of a marriage counselor or therapist.

These professionals are trained to help couples uncover and work through underlying issues, providing a safe space for both partners to express themselves and find solutions.

Remember, seeking help is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of your commitment to the health and growth of your relationship.

If you have a nagging feeling that something is amiss in your marriage, don’t ignore it. Instead, follow the signs that this holiday season may be unveiling.

Focus on being effective rather than being right, and prioritize open communication, active listening, and seeking professional guidance when needed.

By taking these steps, you may be able to uncover the hidden truths within your relationship and move toward a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.

Remember this from Kristianne Wargo: “Effectiveness is where love resides.”

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“