But whatever the case may be, neither of you should feel like you are being ignored.

That’s not a marriage, let alone a relationship.

Yet– you have to remember, it’s how you deal with the situation.

So, if you are one who is experiencing this position in your marriage, then it’s time to turn up the heat with some honest dialogue.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Turn the heat up with some honest dialogue!

1. Choose the Right Time and Place

When expressing your concerns about feeling ignored, timing and environment are key factors. Find a calm moment when both of you can engage in an uninterrupted conversation. Ensure that you are both relaxed and receptive to discussing this sensitive matter. Trying to address the issue during moments of tension or when your spouse is preoccupied may lead to defensiveness and disagreement.

Psychology Today suggests that “timing should come when both have rested, have time, and can fully engage in the discussion – and when the non-ignoring partner is well-prepared with thoughtful and constructive words.”

2. Use “I” Statements

Using “I” statements instead of “you” statements can help convey your concerns without putting your spouse on the defensive. “You” statements tend to sound accusatory and may lead to a counter-attack or denial. On the other hand, “I” statements express your feelings and experiences personally, reducing the potential for misunderstanding.

For example, instead of saying, “You always ignore me,” you can say, “I feel hurt and neglected when I don’t receive your attention. It makes me question our connection and leaves me feeling unheard.”

According to a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, using “I” statements enhances communication because it allows each partner to express their feelings and experiences without sounding confrontational.

3. Offer Specific Examples and Suggest Solutions

During the conversation, it’s important to provide your spouse with concrete examples of when you felt ignored. Be specific about the situations, actions, or behaviors that triggered your concerns. By doing so, you help your spouse understand the impact of their actions or lack of attention.

Additionally, offering potential solutions or compromises demonstrates your commitment to finding a resolution together. For instance, you could suggest designated quality time to connect with each other, setting aside distractions during meals or implementing a daily ritual, such as sharing your highlights of the day.

One thing that most couples don’t do anymore is to look at each other. If you don’t like something that’s happening in your marriage, you have to take an active role to find ways to improve your connection.

Feeling ignored in a relationship can be deeply distressing. However, expressing your concerns to your spouse in a thoughtful and constructive manner can spark open dialogue and create an opportunity for you all to grow closer together.

“Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!“