Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. It’s opens the door of discovery or destruction. So how can marriage thrive in conflict?
First, you must understand what conflict is. It’s a serious disagreement or argument; a clash of opposing needs, wants, or wishes.
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I can think of many “conflicts” in our marriage. But the difference is how you choose to handle those differences.
Conflicts can be simply specks of dirt on an average day. But if you let that dirt pile up, serious consequences can occur in your marriage. Pretty soon, you can’t see the floor. You have years of messes that seem impossible to overcome.
So when you look at conflict, this is a disagreement between you and your spouse. You don’t see eye to eye. It doesn’t have to be big either. Small disagreements can add up to big ones eventually.
If you look at the disagreements and differences as ultimatums (your way or the highway), then conflict can grow rapidly like a weed.
What’s sad, is many couples face this every day. They don’t know how to handle disagreements. Each person relies on their up-bringing or past experiences. Not many couples go in with confidence regarding resolving conflict.
Our society doesn’t know how. We get on our soapbox (i.e., social media, girlfriends, family, etc.) and talk bad about the other person. It’s all about slamming before the other can slam you.
However, if you choose to approach conflict with compromise, you as a couple can actually thrive in conflict.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Approach conflict with compromise!
Conflicts are problems that can inspire us to mend things, fix things, and better things. Instead of looking at conflict as the enemy, embrace it as opportunity for discovery.
During dating, you were in a season of discovery. When conflict arises, think of it as a moment of discovery.
- Listen to the story or reasoning to understand the heart.
Most of us are jumping to conclusions before we even know the backstory. We all have a backstory. Learn the story to understand the heart.
“Open your ears so you can hear the story of the heart near and dear. Let the facts lead the way to understand what matters today. Conflict instills compassion for all, you just have to be willing to let the hurt fall.” ~ Kristianne Wargo
Marriage is not about you. It’s about the two of you. You are in the throws of life together. You’re better together. So don’t settle for the dump truck of destruction. Reach out for the compromise and thrive!
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CHALLENGE: Seek out areas where you can compromise and thrive!
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