My Strength is My Story with Lisa-Jo Baker, Never Unfriended: The Secret to Finding and Keeping Lasting Friendships.
Lisa-Jo Baker: A wife of nearly 20 years, a mother of three vivacious children, and love to connect, encourage, and champion women both in person and online. Lisa-J is the author of Surprised by Motherhood including the Bible study, We Saved You a Seat. She is the creator of The Temper Toolkit.
She is the community manager at (in)courage.me since 2010. There Lisa-Jo engages in conversation with hundreds of women about friendship.
Her latest book, Never Unfriended: The Secret to Finding and Keeping Lasting Friendships, opens discussion to the power of being a friend.
“The shortest distance between strangers is a shared awkward story.” ~ Lisa-Jo Baker
Enjoy the multitude of topics discussed including sweat pants, skinny jeans, un-fine, and inconvenienced. Let’s go deeper with your friendships.
- The Outdoor Space
- Definition of Friendship
- Consumer culture
- What’s in it for me?
- What’s in it for you?
- Sweat pants vs. Skinny Jeans
- Fine and Busy
- The New Girl
- Meet ‘n Greet
- The Leader’s Kit
- Seeking Friends
- Jesus and Friendships
- Circle of Friends
- John’s Gospel
- Safe Walls
- FOMO Amplification
- Drive-By Comparison Shootings
- Saul-David-Jonathon Triangle
- Aligning with God
- The ministry of interruption
- Create imperfect time
- Let go
- Backpack of grievances
- Mapping your friendship DNA
- Invite your friend over
- Forgive 70×7
- Internal monologue
- Benefit of the Doubt
- A spiritual discipline
- Toxic relationships
- Safe boundary lines
- Jesus is the standard
- in Christ
- in Community
- Every day faith
“We all aspire to find and be sweat pant friends.” ~ Lisa-Jo Baker
Quotes and statements within the interview:
“It’s amazing how adding an outdoor living space is wonderful.”
“It can get a little messy and a little up in your business is how it can feel.”
“I think we live in a consumer culture where we approach friendship with a question, ‘What’s in it for me?'”.
“What does it look like to love you, to be your friend?”
“Truth is a very powerful tool in friendships.”
“If you can get past fine and tell them how you really are doing, it’s such a gift to them.”
“Friendship wil starve on a diet of 140 characters or Facebook status updates.”
“Often it takes going first in order to get passed just those tiny little pockets of time we have on Facebook or Instagram.”
“Until you’re willing to put yourself out there again, you won’t be able to go deeper into community.”
“Jesus moved into the neighborhood.”
“He (Jesus) has guarded and protected them.”
“It feels like a drive-by comparison shooting.”
“You have to replace comparison with something else.”
“The Kingdom of God is a co-op not a competition.”
“If we don’t leave space to be inconvenienced, friendship just can’t thrive.”
“The greatest gift you can give your friend is to invite her over when all your laundry is sitting out.”
“Invite your friend over on a messy house day.”
“If we let someone see our house, we might be more likely to let them see our soul.”
“It is a very powerful gift. But it will cost you to give it to somebody because you have to lay down all of your own defenses that is what’s happening when you’re having those conversations in your head.”
“You can’t keep drinking that kind of poison and not expect your soul to be affected.”
“He is the place to go to first; He si the place to practice friendship and to know you are the most accepted.”
“Find yourself among friends.”
“But then how do we reconcile our desire for friendship with our fear of friendship?”
How to be a better friend?
- Willing to let go of past things that hurt you.
- Willing to go first in new friendships.
Women and Friendship
- All women want community.
- A lot of women bring hurt, nervousness, and fear.
What has your story gifted you?
“My strength has really come through the broken places in my story; the things that have caused me the most pain.”
Resources mentioned in the episode:
- Women community: (in)courage.me
Instagram – http://instagram.com/lisajobaker
FaceBook – http://facebook.com/lisajobaker
Twitter – http://twitter.com/lisajobaker
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Music by Mandisa – Overcomer
Cover Art by Jenny Hamson