My Strength is My Story with Dorcas Cheng-Tozun, Start Love Repeat: How to Stay in Love with Your Entrepreneur in a Crazy Start-Up World.
Dorcas Cheng-Tozun, an award-winning writer, editor, and speaker, shares how to stay in love with your entrepreneur in a crazy start-up work in her new book, Start, Love, Repeat.
Dorcas Cheng-Tozun: A wife of 12 years to her incredible husband, Ned and mother of their 2 sons. As a Silicon Valley native, she has lived in mainland China, Hong Kong, and Kenya all because of the entrepreneurial ventures. Dorcas is a columnist for Inc.com along with Christianity Today, The Well, and Asian American Women on Leadership.
“Stress is an inevitable part of the start-up journey.”
~ Dorcas Cheng-Tozun
Enjoy the multitude of topics discussed including newborns, chores, solar power, identity and start-ups. There is hope even amongst the crazy start-up world!
- Start, Love, Repeat
- New Baby
- Her inspiration – Ned
- Move to China
- Solar Power Products
- Why this book?
- Lessons in Life
- Little Things – Chores
- The Edge of the Cliff
- Community and Friendships
- What do we all do after the sun sets?
- Solar Home systems
- Family Calling
- Testing and Stretching
- Personal Value & Worth
- Child of God
- Move to Kenya
- Moving back to Kenya
- How do you know it’s your calling?
- Gift of Faith
- Dialogue with God
- Pursue your passion
- Trust & maturity in marriage
“No matter what we do, we are still children of God.”
~ Dorcas Cheng-Tozun
Quotes and statements within the interview:
“There is never a dull moment in our family and I will always be braced for the unexpected.”
“There really isn’t much out there for the spouses of entrepreneurs.”
“Just one day at a time and just to really try to appreciate what I have.”
“He had that innate entrepreneurial bug that he could never shake.”
“I’m a much more stable kind of person.”
“To meet someone with such a free spirit and who was so wanting to pursue his passion and to find his joy in life, that was really inspiring to me and really infectious too.”
“And yet you mature and you grow and you learn so much about yourselves and about the world because your partner is so different and they’re constantly pushing you to think in different ways and to try new things and to do things and be in different ways to do on your own.”
“We went knowing almost nothing about the city.”
“We had nothing to lose.”
“We wanted to be together at least spending more than half the time in the same place.”
“It was extraordinarily stressful to be involved in the company in that early start-up phase where every day was up and down and you did not know if the business was going to survive or not.”
“Any couple that struggles with balancing work and family, I think the book is for them.”
“Be aware of what the potential costs and benefits will be for yourself and for your family on a personal level.”
“It’s such an all consuming sort of work and vocation that again the whole family gets caught up in it.”
“if you practice having the little conversations first, it’ll set you up really well.”
“There is a little bit of the nag of that’s necessary.”
“He recognize the value of having other people in his life besides me, because I really couldn’t do everything for him.”
“We needed to also take care of ourselves in order to be able to pursue this mission in the long run.”
“The vast majority of entrepreneurs go into it because they love it, because that’s what they want to do, and that’s how they’re wired.”
“God has been very much at the center of it.”
“It has been a far bigger venture than we could do on our own.”
“He’s testing us and stretching us in extraordinary ways and He’s sharing us He’s the one who’s making this happen.”
“It’s actually very dangerous to link your whole sense of identity with your business because it is so unpredictable.”
“One of the healthiest things for entrepreneurs to do is to have a sense of being grounded in who you are outside of the work that you do.”
“I struggle a lot with anxiety and worry for him.”
“I used to think that the road before me would be smooth and easy and hopefully pave with gold if this is what God intended us to do.”
“It’s also been confirmed in so many ways.”
“What I have learned, especially as a writer is that it doesn’t have to be that big to make a difference.”
“I wanted to give couples hope.”
What would you tell someone who wants to support someone on the edge of the cliff?
- Establish a healthier pattern
- Place of Love
- Offer specific solutions and invite them to be a part of the solution.
What has your story gifted you?
- knowing limitations
“My story has gifted me with so much learning about my own limitations.”
“Now that I can see my own limitations and my weaknesses much more clearly and I accept them; it’s made it easier to be OK with who I am.”
Resources mentioned in the episode:
“One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!”
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